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Modern Day Wedding Etiquette

Wedding etiquette has drastically changed over the years - especially with the rise of social media. There are many questions that the engaged couple and wedding guests can find themselves wondering. To help you, we have put together some of our favourite aspects of modern day wedding etiquette that we have watched develop over the years.

Announcing Your Engagement

When it comes to announcing your engagement, many couples find that now the easiest way to do it is via Facebook. Although, before you do this, we recommend telling your family and close friends either in person or over the phone. Your family and close friends will appreciate you taking the time to the share your exciting news with them first.

The Groom Can See His Bride Prior To The Ceremony

An old superstition says that it is bad luck for the groom to see the bride before the ceremony. Today, many couples disregard this and take it as an opportunity to take photos beforehand. Photographers will often encourage this also because not only does it allow for more photos, but the brides hair and makeup will also still be fresh and flawless.

Guests Should Stay Off Of Their Phones

Whether or not it is an unplugged wedding, as a guest it is always best to stay off your phone. It is respectful to the bride and groom as they have invited you to celebrate their special day with them. Phones can also often get in the way of professional photos.

Sharing Pictures Of The Newlyweds

Today, it is common that the bride and groom will ask their guests not to share any photos of the day to social media. This gives the newlyweds the opportunity to post professional photos to social media first. If you are not sure whether or not you can post photos, it is always best to check first with a member of the bridal party.

Wedding Registries

Today many couples already have a home and everything they need prior to their wedding day, so a traditional wedding registry can often seem pointless. Instead, receiving money in lieu of a gift has become common. We recommend to always inform your guests of what the money will be going towards. Whether it is your honeymoon, a home renovation or even a charity.

Ceremony Seating

During the ceremony, traditionally the brides family will sit on the left of the aisle and the grooms family to the right with family sitting in the front rows. Although in today’s modern times, the trend of ‘choose a seat, not a side’ is becoming increasingly popular. This can be an especially popular option for more complex family situations.

Wedding Invitation Etiquette

Your wedding invitations are an important element in your planning process as they provide guests with vital information about your day. While creating your invitations there are some basics guidelines you should follow to ensure you meet wedding invitation etiquette. Keep reading for our top tips on everything wedding invite related to ensure you have the correct etiquette.

Save The Date

First of all, it is completely optional for whether or not you want to send out save the date cards to your guests although, it is a good idea to send them if you will be inviting guests from far and wide. Typically, save the dates are sent out anywhere between six and twelve months prior to the wedding – the more notice you give your guests the happier they will be, especially if you are having a destination wedding.

How To Address The Invitations

When it comes to addressing your wedding invitations, there are many different ways to do so depending on a range of different things, ranging from whether your wedding is formal or informal to whether your parents are divorced or remarried. For everything related to addressing your invitations head to our blog post which solely focuses on this for you.

RSVP Deadlines

Set your RSVP deadline for three to four weeks prior to your wedding so that you can give your caterer and any other vendors a final guest number. Keep in mind that you may want to set your RSVP date on your invitation to be a week prior to the date that you need them by to allow for any that you may receive late.

Registry Information

Some couples choose not to include their registry information on their wedding invitation or save the date because they feel as though is can come across like they are asking for gifts. Instead, many couples opt to tell their wedding party, parents and close friends where they are registered and then they can then inform other guests of the registry by word of mouth.

When To Send

Traditionally, wedding invitations are sent out to guests between six and eight weeks prior to the wedding day. This ensures that your guests have enough time to rearrange their schedule as well as make any travel and accommodation arrangements if they are coming to your wedding from out of town. If you are not going to be sending out save the date cards, you may want to send out your invitations at least three months in advance.

Thank You Notes

Many couples decide to send out thank you notes to their guest to show their appreciation for attending their wedding and for any gifts they received. Any thank you notes should be sent out with a sense of urgency, ideally within two to three weeks after the wedding.